Hello again friends today I wanted to talk about independence.

I know how many times you saw a pissed girls tweet or a facebook status about independence and "I don't need you to be happy" and then you see her begging her boy to come back in the next tweet. Yeah, this is going to be something biferent I promise.

Now I'm going to tell you a real life sad story and how I learned (hard way) that independence is very very important in life if you don't want to feel emotional pain every day till the end of your life. Okay, this story starts in summer 2013, I was a 16 years old and first time in life I was going to summer vacation with my friends (without parents). I was so excited and happy about this trip that I planned it for months. In the camp that we were staying in were a lot of young people and it was so awesome, we hang out together and became friends. So long story short I meet a guy who was from little town very close to mine and we became a couple. I didn't know if we are going to stay together when we get back home, but I really liked this guy and I was happy around him. So the day of coming back comes and we exchange numbers and promise that we are going to keep in touch. And we did. He called the next day and we got out and it was all unicorn, flowers and rainbows. We stayed together and had a very good time. When I was sad I would call him and he would make me feel better, when I had a problem I would call him and he would help me get over it and resolve it. We would talk about everything and relied on each other for everything. I had inviolable trust for him.

And it was all good till one day that he didn't send me a good morning message, he didn't reply any of my messages I tried to call him and he wouldn't answer. I was so scared for him till I called his brother and he said that he's fine and home. My world was crashed. I didn't know whats happening I was very confused. After a few days he called me and said he want to see me. At that point I knew that there is no us anymore. I did see him and he said that he likes other girl. I knew that he is going to say something like that but still it was one of the biggest shocks in my life.

I was depressed and sad for a long long time even tho I didn't let anyone see that I was suffering. I didn't know how to deal with my problems there were no one to calm me down and make me feel better. My friends and family were trying to help me but I didn't let anyone near, I had hard time talking about it and I was keeping everything inside. I was constantly saying no to friends and family I didn't want to go anywhere or do anything and I felt so alone. I did some stupid things that I don't even want to go into. I cried myself to sleep too many nights and after one sleepless night I just decided that this madness has to stop.

I started going out again, I hang out with my friends and meet new people. I had fun and I learnt how to deal with problems on my own. In time I realised that people are not in our lives to deal with our problems and cheer us up. We need to fight our own battles and make our lives about ourselves.  And if you are sad, depressed, unmotivated you need to learn how to get over it on your own. You have to be that person who is making you happy. People should be the extra support and pet on the back when we succeed in whatever we are trying to do. Independence in every form is one of the most important things in life.

It is true, you are the creator of your happiness.

Thanks for reading friend.


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